Perspective

I have started searching for new adoption blogs but this time I started looking for blogs that were written from a perspective that I don't know so well. I started looking for blogs written by former birth moms. I read a blog post that a friend shared with me a while back and it opened my eyes and my heart to the heart of a birth mom. You can read the post for yourself here. This blog post so profoundly affected my view that I quoted it in our letter to birth parents that they read while they are looking through our family book. Because of this post I figured more of them had to be out there somewhere. I want to know more about what they think, about what they struggle with, about their motivation to place their child. I eventually found a blog that I have been reading called The Happiest Sad. It is written by a former birth mother to help other birth mothers. But it has helped me. It also helps that she is funny. Several different times I literally was laughing out loud. She is a witty one.

One thing I want to take a minute to address (I learned this from reading various blogs) is that when a girl/woman decides to place her child for adoption (not give up her baby, note the terminology there), it is not because she doesn't love her child, or that she doesn't want to keep the baby. It's because she does love her child. She loves that baby enough to put herself through the most difficult thing so that her child can have what she cannot give. It is not something to look down on her for. It is something to applaud her for. Not every pregnancy is planned by people, but every life is planned by God. It's her job as the mother to do what is right for her child, even if it hurts her. It's not a shameful act, it's selfless and beautiful.

Sorry for the randomness of this post. It kind of fits how my mind has been going. :) We are at almost five months in the waiting pool.  Ava informed me the other day "I just want a baby so bad I don't even care if it's a boy baby!" Folks, that is some serious desperation right there! She quickly decided that she still wants it to be a girl baby. Ryan is still rooting for a boy baby and says he "wiw be so angwy if it's a giwl baby". One of them will be happy! Me, I just want a baby. Maybe we will be placed with twins and they will both be happy. Alright, I am done blogging now because just the thought of twins is overwhelming!

~Andrea