So at this point, we are hovering right around a year's time going through in this adoption process. There are a couple of things that have happened this year that I believe are worth noting:
1) The call to adopt is not an easy one for any party involved.
At this point, we have had close to two dozen encounters with potential birth families. I am guessing for a variety of reasons, our family has not been picked. I truly believe that our match is out there, yet it can be discouraging to go through the process of finding out that there is a birth mom who has our profile in her hand, only to find out that she is going to pick another family.
I won't pretend that the discouragement that I am experiencing is even close to the emotional roller coaster a birth family must experience. To be willing to let another family raise the wonderful, beautiful person growing inside of a birth mom... that is a decision that has no equal to what I will experience in this process. So to all birth moms and families that come across this blog, I want to encourage you as you seek to decide what is the best decision to make for your child. That child is and always will be your child, and the choice you make, whether to adopt or to raise the child yourself, is a noble one, worthy of praise and encouragement.
2) The call to adopt is real, not of my own design.
One of my personal characteristics is that of being an achiever. When this process began, my mind shifted mostly to the logistics of the adoption; how were we going to make this happen? And we began the process to make it happen. It is one thing when you have a plan, and are able to execute it on your own to make it happen, but I soon discovered that while we were in the process of trying to figure this thing out, God in his great glory was working on the hearts of individuals to help us make this happen. Unprompted by me or my family, individuals began to step forward with financial commitments and service commitments to help us raise the funding to be able to adopt when the time comes. This to me, is evidence of God working to make it possible to adopt, and proof that our family is on the right track as we adopt.
3) So we wait.
We will continue to travel down this road as long as it is seen fit for us to be there. We are hanging out in the adoption waiting pool, and over this year's time our waiting has shown us to be very good swimmers. We are ever increasingly looking forward to the opportunity to begin a beautiful relationship with a birth mom, her family, and her child.
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